Is it ok an to ask for money instead of wedding gifts?

Is it ok to ask for money instead of wedding gifts?

This is certainly a question we are asked a lot!


Wedding season is upon us, and it’s time to start thinking about what gifts you’ll ask from your friends and family. But what if I told you there was another option? What if instead of asking for something like silverware or a blender, you could ask for money? Would that be weird? Would people think less of you? Well, we asked a few experts in order to find out–and their answers may surprise you!

It’s okay to ask for money as gifts, but you should remember that people might not give it if they can’t afford it.

It’s okay to ask for money as gifts, but you should remember that people might not give it if they can’t afford it.

It’s also important to be sensitive to the financial situation of your guests. If someone is struggling financially, or maybe has a lot of other things going on in their life at the moment (like caring for an elderly parent), then asking them for cash could make them feel bad about themselves or put a strain on their resources.

So while there are no hard and fast rules here, I think it’s best not to go overboard with asking for cash only—you don’t want your wedding day itself turning into an exercise in people justifying why they couldn’t afford a monetary gift!

If you still want to ask for cash as a gift, then I recommend that you do so in a subtle way. For example, you could say something like: “We’re so excited about our wedding day and the opportunity to celebrate with all of our favorite people! If you don’t have time to shop for gifts but would still like to give us something, we’d love for you to contribute towards our honeymoon.”

Check out some of our pocketfold invitations that are suitable to include money or gift poems Pocketfold Invitations.

Is it rude to ask for only money as a wedding gift?

This is a tricky question to answer, but the short answer is: no. It isn’t rude to ask for cash as a wedding gift. However, it’s important that your request be done in the right way and with the appropriate context.

If you’re considering asking for only money or honeymoon donations instead of presents, then it’s important that you make this clear on your wedding invitations. That way guests won’t be surprised or disappointed when they arrive at your wedding and don’t receive any gifts. And if you do want guests to buy gifts anyway (which some people prefer), then they will know what types of things they can bring after reading the invitation properly.

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What to say if you want money for your honeymoon

If you want cash gifts, then it’s best to say so in your invitation. You should also make it clear that no guests are expected to give presents.

  • “We’re delighted you can join us on our special day, but please don’t feel obliged to bring a gift.”
  • “Our new home is only two bedrooms so we’d rather have your support by way of a donation towards our honeymoon.”

How to ask for cash instead of presents

You should not worry about offending anyone. You should not worry about what other people think of you. You should not worry about what is expected of you, or how much money to ask for, or how to ask for it (unless you have a significant other who would be upset by the idea).

If someone gives you cash gifts instead of traditional presents, do not feel like they were trying to insult your wedding or your marriage—they just wanted to do something meaningful and special for the two of you! That’s terrific! Just thank them profusely and move on with life.


In conclusion, we have to say the answer is yes. It’s ok to ask for money instead of wedding gifts! As a matter of fact in the last 3 years we have not been asked to produce a single wedding gift list, instead every couple has opted for wedding gift poems requesting money or donations towards their honeymoon.

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